Tuesday, May 13, 2008

You're still adopting, right?

How do you respond to questions about your adoption? We get a lot of the above question and others like, "Any news yet?", "Did you already submit your paperwork," etc. My answers go like this, "Yes, we are still adopting, we haven't heard any good news, and yes, we submitted our paperwork 2 years ago." Then, they proceed to ask why it is taking so long and I proceed to curl up on the floor, pound my fists into the ground and scream, "Why, why, why....I want to know why, too!!!".

OK, so maybe that last part is a bit of an exaggeration. It is hard to explain the situation without turning negative, though. Plus, I don't really have any answers. I don't know why we are still waiting. I know what the agency tells us, what the rumor Internet boards tell us, what little the countries tell us and I assume the truth is muddled up in there somewhere.

I'm trying to challenge myself to find a better way to handle these questions. At heart, I believe that it all will happen in God's time. People seem to want details, though. If you aren't directly involved in international adoption, you have a lot of questions about how it all works. How can I be a little more positive with my answers without going into some long story about the various reasons that could be causing delays?

How are you all handling these questions? Leave me some ideas in the comments!


Andrea said...

I smile and say"International adoption can be unpredictable, but that's O.K."


Sarah said...

Tell me about, Sista. I can't wait to read about what others have to say. People have stopped asking me, beause they've heard the same "it could be any day now" lame answer from me for so long. Several months ago I brought a woman to tears when I told her that I didn't have a referral yet. Ug. You know it's bad when people break down and cry for you! And I'm like... "Honey, don't cry for me. I've cried enough for both of us."